Posts

A Lesson from Last 2017

(To be clear we are speaking of those not adopted by their own kin. Outside adoptions to complete strangers set up through a third party. )      Sometimes those who are adopted have a strong desire to belong. A  deep desire to fit in. One that never really comes to them in their adopted families. The whispers from the kitchen, the adult who is still being sat with the kids at holiday gatherings. The one grandchild who is lumped in with the great-grandchildren it's all these little things that the child and even some adults who were adopted find in their families.  Seems time does not change this. As the child grows into an adult it still occurs.      Once in a while ( more often with the age of technology ) those kids grow up and get the chance to meet their biological families.  As an adopted individual all the above was true for me. Even though my connection with a few of my biological brothers is very strong. Its very clear I...
Post a Comment
Read more

Some days

As an adopted person and growing up in a loving home. Alot still wonder things like: Why was I given up? Was there something wrong with me? Was it me? Were they trying to help me? Sometimes its like I dont fit in! (simply it applies to both sides Adopted and Biological) Its sometimes seems like the familes dont fully accept you because you are not of blood or because you were not rasied with them. 
Post a Comment
Read more

The Path Less Traveled.

Adoption ... (Disclaimer - I am not writing this to encourage or discourage. I am also not trying to bash anyone. Just to give others an inside perspective) I believe in Adoption over Abortion. Not because of my Religious views or because I feel that I am better than anybody else. I believe in Adoption simply,  because I am adopted . Now in my 30's I know quite a few people who have been adopted or adopted children of their own.  I understand the ups and downs for the adopted child . As I have lived that my entire life. There is no hand book on parenting you get with the birth of your first child or the adoption of your first. No one is perfect and people make mistakes. No two kids are the same what worked for me may not work for someone else. Some kids go their entire child hood from foster care to foster care or orphanages.  I was lucky My adoption was already set up and finalized with in 3 days of my birth.  Back then 3 days was the average for a hosp...
Post a Comment
Read more